Cheating on your partner, it would seem,
has become an accepted part of having a relationship, but it shouldn’t
be. Cheating hurts and it betrays a trust, and there really is no excuse
for it.
But, cheating is often a symptom of a deeper problem in a relationship,
so here we explore some of the things that can be done to prevent cheating in a relationship:
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But, cheating is often a symptom of a deeper problem in a relationship,
so here we explore some of the things that can be done to prevent cheating in a relationship:
1. Understand and agree on the boundaries
What constitutes cheating can vary from
person to person. Is it OK to dance with another person, kiss a person
or give them a hug? Or, to your partner, does this mean that you have
cheated? There needs to be a clear understanding of what cheating means
to each of you, and then there can be no mistakes.
2. Be best friends, as well as starry eyed lovers
It’s important to be good friends, as
well as lovers. You need to be able to talk to one another openly or you
will find that some things are being kept a secret.
3. Learn to grow and change together
Couples need to be able to grow, in
their right, and together. Everyone needs new challenges and new
opportunities, so pursue those together and no one will feel the need to
go elsewhere to broaden their horizons.
4. Make staying faithful a no brainer
The best defence against cheating is to
make the relationship so great, that your partner has too much to lose
by cheating. Communication is the key here, talk to each other about
what you want, and make sure that you take account of each other’s
needs.
5. Keep things interesting and try new things together
Boredom is often cited as a reason for
cheating, so keep things interesting and try different things. This is
not just restricted to being adventurous in the bedroom! It also means
going out to different places, taking up new hobbies and even changing
the channel you watch on TV.
6. Be there for each other and listen
You’ve heard it before: ‘My wife /
husband / boyfriend /girlfriend doesn’t understand me’. That is as much a
symptom of not listening, as it is about not understanding. Listen,
when your partner says ‘let’s do something different this weekend’, or
they could be doing something different next weekend with someone else.
7. Don’t take your relationship for granted or you can find yourself surprised, and alone!
Don’t assume that your partner is happy
and never assume that nobody else would put with them! Just because you
would never consider living apart doesn’t mean that they feel the same
way. Taking someone for granted is a sure way to finding yourself
surprised, and alone.
8. Don’t be too controlling
Complaining, nagging and criticising can
all add up to an unhappy relationship. You are in a sharing partnership
and no one of you should be controlling the other. If you are trying to
control your partner, you might find that they suffer in silence, until
one day, they go elsewhere for solace.
9. Be sure to let your partner know that they are appreciated and loved
You may well love your partner, care
about them and would never want to be apart from them. But, when did you
last tell them that? It’s about taking things for granted again, so
don’t assume that your partner feels loved, tell them that they are.
10. Don’t cheat on your partner!
Cheating means different things to
different people, as we have already said. Men, in particular, are very
sensitive to what they might see as cheating and, even if it’s only
emotional, their way of hitting back can often be cheating in revenge.
In the long run, no one wins by cheating. It is far better to just be
honest.
Do you have some other relationship advice and tips on how to prevent cheating in a relationship?
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